An American woman recently received an unexpected but heartfelt invitation from her Indian coworker: “Borrow an Indian dress from my wife and come to the office Diwali party!” Now, she’s wondering – is it respectful to say yes, or could it come across as cultural appropriation?
Here’s the background: her coworker’s wife, who is also her daughter’s beloved preschool teacher, offered to share her traditional attire, hoping the American woman could join the celebration dressed in Indian clothing.
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“I do not want to offend anyone. I am nervous about cultural appropriation but also nervous about offending him if I say no to wearing the dress… any advice is welcome!!!”
In cases like this, an invitation to wear traditional dress is a warm welcome, not a cultural misstep. Dr. Raj Mehta, a cultural studies professor, notes, “When someone invites you to wear their traditional attire, it’s often seen as a gesture of inclusion – they’re welcoming you into their celebration.”
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Diwali, the Festival of Lights, is all about togetherness, sharing and honoring new beginnings. To make the occasion even more relatable, the American has considered buying an Indian outfit that fits better since she’s much taller than her coworker’s wife. Her motivation is rooted in respect: she wants to ensure she’s not taking a “costume” approach but rather honoring the invitation thoughtfully and personally.
This approach reflects a shift in how many workplaces are celebrating diversity – inviting coworkers to be part of cultural traditions without worry. And it speaks volumes about how this American woman is being welcomed into an Indian family’s cultural celebration. Her empathy, curiosity, and effort to respect these boundaries are creating a beautiful balance between participation and sensitivity.
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So, what will she wear? Be mindful when offering these to Americans, as many may not be comfortable, and some don’t express their true feelings.
