If you are an Indian woman, living your life in your 30’s, living your life, pursuing your dream, and perhaps wondering it’s time for you to settle down and you meet a man who seems to tick a lot of boxes. A man, who is stable, ambitious, doesn’t drink or smoke, and has a genuine spiritual side, traits that many families would love to have in their son-in-law, but here’s the catch – he’s divorced, and his previous marriage was anything but conventional.
Let’s call him, Shiv. He’s a software engineer, based in the U.S. His first marriage was more of a practical arrangement to help both him and his ex-wife secure green cards. They were friends who partnered up for the paperwor, but their relationship didn’t go beyond that. Once they achieved their goal, they parted ways amicably, without any children or complications. Bow he’s left wondering if an Indian woman would consider him for marriage.
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For many Indian families, the term “divorced” still raises eyebrows, regardless of the situation. Divorce isn’t merely a personal decision; it carries significant societal implications. But is it justifiable to let one practical choice overshadow a potentially great match? Nowadays, many women are beginning to look past labels, focusing on values like compatibility, honesty and respect.
But does Shiv’s background give you a pause? It’s a valid question – would you feel at ease marrying someone whose previous marriage was purely transactional, or would that make you think twice?
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Let’s focus on the positives for minute here. Shiv has a stable job, with a few side bsuiness ventures, which makes him financially secure. He’s a vegetarian, abstains from smoking or alchohol and is deeply commited to his spiritual journey. For some women, these attributes may outweigh any concerns about his past marriage. His lifestyle and values could very well be enough to win over a family that might typically have reservations about a “second marriage.”
For many, the idea of a previous marriage, even without romantic ties, can be a source of histation. Additionally, explaining this choice to parents and extended families, who may have different views, can be challenging. Some might question if there’s more to the situation than what is apparent or if any emotional connections remain. It could raise questions about expectations, particularly if your family is anticipating a traditional wedding and a “first-time” marriage.
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For Indian women today though, aligning values is key, regardless of past marital experiences. Many women are becoming more accepting of the term “divorced,” as long as they perceive honesty, maturity and shared values within their partner.
Time’s are changing, but slowly. Shiv’s story is a modern one, and he’s not the only person facing this unique situation. Today, Indian women are rethinking and rewriting their own stories, focusing more on common goals, and values. But this shoft is gradual. For a man like Shiv, the path to finding a partner might reuqire a woman who’s not only open-minded but also confident enough to push back against traditional norms if need be.
At the end of the day, it’s a questions only you can answer: If you were introduced someone like Shiv, would you give him a chance? His story isn’t unique is today’s world, and may the right person would want exactly what they’re looking for, someone who is learned, honest, and ready to begin a new chapter.
