Exclusive – Dalljiet Kaur on her second marriage: The day I announced I am engaged, people called me to say that my career is over

Dalljiet Kaur, who is all set to tie the knot to her UK-based fiance Nikhil Patel in March, recently joined ETimes TV for an exclusive conversation. During her interview the actress spoke about her second marriage, bond with Nikhil’s daughters and her son Jaydon’s response on meeting Nick. She further commented on how people started calling and telling her that her acting career will be over after marriage. Dalljiet also opened up about how it took 7 years to convince herself to fall in love again. She even shared that the first time she met Nikhil had worn blue nail paint. (Photo: Instagram)

The struggle of convincing myself to fall in love again went on for 7 years. Initially, whenever anyone would flirt with me, I would get offended. I used to take it very personally that how dare you to talk to me like that. It took me a few years to come to a stage when I realised that I am single and I should find a partner for myself. Initially, the thought was to find someone for Jaydon who can be a father figure with whom I can make decisions like for school, medical. There are times when you need a second opinion. This was my first instinct as a mother. But when a couple of years passed I realised I need a companion and I also need love and someone with whom spend my life with. I reached a point where I had all the right reasons to look for a person with whom I wanted to be with. Bahut darr ke I’ve spent a few last years but finally I have made the right decision. (Photo: Instagram)

The first time I saw Nikhil my first reaction was why is he wearing blue nail paint. I distinctly remember it but then I later came to know he is a father of two girls. We connected as parents and that time it was not on our minds that we both are single and want to be together. We started talking, knowing each other as parents and gradually we realised we both are looking for potential partners and we both were scared. It took us a while but eventually we took that plunge and said this is perfect and we should go ahead with it. (Photo: Instagram)

Nikhil also had various thoughts in mind that I am from India and well established here and will I move out? For him also it is a big responsibility to get me there. He told me to continue with my career and I am already in the process of signing two web shows. He is more than happy that I am independent and working. Everything just fell in place for both of us. (Photo: Instagram)

Jaydon has been the most important part of my life and my everything revolves around him. I am sure it must be for all the parents but for me it is slightly more protective towards him as I’ve done everything on my own for him and single-handedly. Making Jaydon meet Nick was a huge thing for me and I kept delaying it. I kept prolonging it because I wanted to be sure. But I realised I can never be sure because the fear will always be there. Even now when I have announced the wedding the fear is still there. It will take me a lot of happiness, surety to heal and to become a confident person. I have been on the under confident level for the last few years and Nick also doesn’t expect me to suddenly become normal. (Photo: Instagram)

When Jaydon met Nick for the first time he called him Papa. He had whispered in my ears so loudly “Is he going to be my papa” that I was embarrassed. I froze for a few minutes. And in the past I have dated a few men and he knew about it but he had never behaved this way. This was the first time he called someone papa and my heart skipped a beat. But the way Nick handled the situation I was amazed. I think few things are very karmic. (Photo: Instagram)

The day I declared that I am going to get married I got three to four calls demotivating me that now I’ll have to quit my career as I am getting married. I was surprised as they were telling me I shouldn’t have announced that now I will stop getting work. They all kept telling me I am going to Kenya now and nobody will give me work. I was confused about what my wedding has to do with my career. (Photo: Instagram)

Why are they always behind my career? When I gave birth to Jaydon people told me I will only get mother’s roles. Why? I did Qayamat Ki Raat, Guddan and web shows. I had to always fight my way and why do I have to prove that I can handle both the things. Why do girls always have to prove it? Yes, I am happy to move to his house but that has nothing to do with my career as we both are very happy with my profession. I just roll up my sleeves. I have been through so much that now I don’t get scared. The day I will come here to shoot my web show you can see for yourself. Why can’t people encourage that now you will have a family and you can happily work. Why don’t people discuss this in our society? (Photo: Instagram)

I am very lucky that I have two beautiful daughters in my life now. My friends know that I always wished for a daughter also. The plan was always to have two kids but life took another turn but the craving was always there. So now one daughter is not going to stay with us as she stays with her mother. She is in the US and being taken care of by her mom. Ariana will stay with us. I met her for the first time in Kenya when I was there for some work. She is a 13 year old beautiful, mature girl. We can talk about anything and we met for shopping, going out after that. She calls me D – Mum as she can’t speak Hindi. The company is very organic. (Photo: Instagram)

Coming from two broken marriages, kids also go through a lot. Jaydon has seen a lot with me and the same Ariana must have seen. Now kids also want to stay in a happy, complete home scenario and I think the intention is good. Kids should be happy and their mental state should be taken care of. As a mother I feel responsible for Ariana and Jaydon both and Anika whenever she visits her it will be my responsibility to give her all the love she deserves. It is a very organic thing and not a well thought of relationship. (Photo: Instagram)

I am very excited for Jaydon. I feel kids are very resilient and they adapt very amazingly. He is very excited about the fact that he will be going to a new school and Nick has already enrolled him in a new school which is very good. There is a mixed culture there and kids from all over the world will be studying together. Jaydon is going to travel and will get new exposure. As I was a single parent and kept travelling for work I couldn’t give him that exposure. Now, I will be relaxed so I will be able to do more for him physically, mentally. Nick and Jaydon are planning for his room and he is very excited. (Photo: Instagram)