By Prathiba Raju and Shilpasree Mondal
New Delhi: Valentine’s Day, often celebrated as a day of love and affection, is also becoming a complex and emotionally charged occasion. While some bask in the joy of romantic connections, others grapple with feelings of loneliness, anxiety, or self-doubt. The growing influence of social media has only intensified these emotions, setting unrealistic expectations and fostering unhealthy comparisons. The pressure to conform to an idealised version of love can take a toll on mental health, turning what should be a celebration into a source of stress.
However, love extends beyond grand romantic gestures—it includes self-care, friendships, and emotional well-being. Experts emphasise that by acknowledging and addressing these mixed emotions, we can create a more inclusive and mindful approach to Valentine’s Day—one that prioritises mental health and genuine connections over societal expectations.
Valentine’s Day can evoke a wide range of emotions. While some experience joy and connection, others may struggle with loneliness, anxiety, or self-doubt.
Dr. Sameer Malhotra, Senior Director and Head of Mental Health and Behavioral Sciences at Max Super Speciality Hospital, Saket, explains, “The societal pressure to be in a relationship or present an ideal romantic life can lead to unhealthy comparisons, stress, and self-esteem issues. Many individuals, especially younger people, feel compelled to meet unrealistic expectations set by social media and advertising.”
Managing Loneliness and Anxiety
It’s important to recognize that Valentine’s Day is just another day, and its significance should not define one’s self-worth. Engaging in self-care and prioritizing personal well-being can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and anxiety.
Dr. Shambhavi Jaiman, Consultant Psychiatrist at Fortis Memorial Research Institute, Gurgaon, advises, “Do something that brings you joy—watch a favorite movie, cook a meal, or spend time with close friends. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to talk to someone you trust.”
Practicing gratitude and acknowledging non-romantic relationships can also help shift the focus from what is missing to what is already present.
The Role of Societal Expectations
The portrayal of love in media and advertisements often sets unrealistic benchmarks, making people feel inadequate if their reality does not align with the idealized version.
Dr. Sachin Baliga, Consultant Psychiatrist at Fortis Hospital, Bannerghatta Road, Bengaluru, notes, “True connection requires effort, consistency, and vulnerability. Recognizing that media portrayals of love are often exaggerated can help individuals manage expectations and focus on genuine relationships.”
Love is not limited to romantic relationships—it extends to friendships, family, and self-care. Small gestures, such as writing a kind note to oneself, reaching out to a friend, or practicing self-compassion, can enhance mental well-being.
Dr. Malhotra emphasizes, “Love, in all its forms, contributes to emotional well-being. Acts of kindness, healthy social connections, and self-love release feel-good hormones like oxytocin and serotonin, which enhance happiness and mental health.”
Mindful Practices for a Meaningful Valentine’s Day
Instead of succumbing to societal pressure, individuals can set personal intentions for the day. Whether through acts of kindness, creative activities, or quality time with loved ones, prioritizing emotional well-being is key.
Dr. Baliga suggests, “Focusing on shared experiences rather than material gifts can make Valentine’s Day more fulfilling. Engage in activities that bring joy, whether it’s volunteering, journaling, or spending time in nature.”
Valentine’s Day should be about appreciation and connection rather than validation or comparison. Setting healthy boundaries with social media, practicing gratitude, and celebrating love in its many forms can help individuals experience the day in a more positive and fulfilling way.
By shifting the focus from societal expectations to personal well-being, Valentine’s Day can become an opportunity for growth, connection, and self-care. Ultimately, love is not defined by a single day but by the moments of kindness, connection, and understanding we cultivate every day.
